A journalist at the Mail Online is looking for quick views about the impact reality TV shows have on real life relationships. She's writing a piece about how TV shows like Netflix's The Ultimatum could have an impact on real life couples. For instance, making them believe that providing ultimatums to their partners is a good way of getting them to commit, or believing they must cheat to know whether they're committed to the relationship or not. She's looking for a couple of paragraphs about whether this show and other ones like it could impact real behaviour and the longstanding impact of this. Just a short paragraph or two will do. Deadline is ASAP. &nbsp;

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Reality TV and reality

Relationship-based reality TV often provides compelling viewing for those looking to see others succeed or fail , but there's very little "reality£ involved in something that is scripted and edited for maximum viewing pleasure.

The greater reality is that trying to apply aspects from these types of shows to your own life is like trying to carve a statue with a sledgehammer, and rather than taking the time to build a healthy, sustainable relationship, we try to fix issues with an all or nothing over dramatised approach.

Let's take reality TV for what it is, the fast food of the entertainment world, easy to watch, occasionally funny but not the best to consume  to try and use on our own lives, as it's far from reality and is unlikely to result in a happy ending.

Essentialise Workplace Wellbeing is a workplace wellbeing company founded by psychologist Lee Chambers. They work with clients on the intersection between wellbeing, organisational culture and performance. They assist SME's with wellbeing strategy, and how to measure wellbeing impact with data so it can be evolved. They also deliver wellbeing workshops into multinational organisations, focusing on psychological safety, resilience, stress and sleep. Based in Preston in Lancashire, they work with clients to ensure that wellbeing is sustainable and generates a strong business case, while improving employee engagement, happiness and ultimately their health outcomes.

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Lee Chambers

"Sex and love addiction, co-dependency and narcissistic abuse are very real and extremely damaging to the individual, the family and society at large. In my work as a post-traumatic transformation coach, I work with women who have suffered from love addiction, co-dependency and narcissistic abuse, and programmes such as the split, whilst brilliantly written and acted, portray sex and love addiction as something almost glamorous, when in reality they are horrific addictions. Reality TV can often fail to accurately portray the real-life trauma that many people have to endure, and could lead many people to act in ways that they may well regret."

At the Positive Life Company we coach women who have suffered from trauma and addiction to move towards post traumatic transformation. We show them they are deserving of love, share with them the tools to navigate overwhelming emotions and give them permission to set healthy boundaries and practice self-love, self-care and self-compassion. We do this through 1-1 coaching, group programmes and online courses. Our founder Jannice Jones has worked with women for over 20 years, holds a masters in positive psychology, is an author, coach, keynote speaker and mentor.

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Jannice Jones

"Reality TV is more like unreality TV. Anyone who has tried, failed and tried again at real life relationships knows it's not like TV. There is more reality in Coronation St than some glamorous island romance show or an in-your-face look at someone's genitals thinking that will solve your fears and dreams for love, life and connection. But even so, get real everyone and get out there and find your way through your relationship dilemmas by putting in the risk and hard graft to your real life love, heartache and vulnerability challenges. Whatever your TV fantasy, you will never avoid the real life reality of how happiness is created between people."

This is me in private practice. https://www.linkedin.com/company/holistic-lif I work with adults, teenagers, families who are in transiiton through life changes and challenges. As a registered and chartered psychologist of 30 years experience, a sound and grounded psychological approach is a given...however, this is holistic life psychology, which means I work with the whole person and their whole life. And I do this using a wealth of tools and insights, as appropriate to the person. Who might benefit? Those in search of meaning to life and living Those needing to make decisions about life, people and change e.g. marriage, divorce or education choices Those needing to evaluate life and meet its challenges, eg through grief or loss or inspiration for something better or different How is it holistic? I work from a base in Jungian psychology, visual archetypes, dream analysis and personality theory and take an eclectic, creative and person-centred approach. I use tools from life, work and family experience and from my qualifications in: aromatherapy, colour therapy, meditation, yoga, teen yoga, music, healing and sound therapy https://www.linkedin.com/company/holistic-life-psychology

Reality TV and reality

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Lee Chambers

Founder / Psychologist at Essentialise Workplace Wellbeing

Jannice Jones

Founder at The Positive Life Company

Linda Doe

Chartered Psychologist at Linda Doe