England lose to Italy - coping with the aftermath

ended 12. July 2021

Following England's defeat last night, we asked a number of experts - from clinical psychologists to Consultant Psychologist - on how people should cope with their feelings of disappointment. Their réponses are below.

4 responses from the Newspage community

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"When things matter and they don't work out then disappointment is an understandable and incredibly human reaction. "When we watch team sport, our physiology mirrors the people we are watching and so our disappointment was actually the same disappointment as that of the England team. "It's hard to sustain the biology behind all the suspense and nail-biting moments over such a prolonged period of full time, extra time and penalties. "We are always going to have a post-match slump and may feel a bit jittery as a result and disappointment makes it feel all the worse. "Stay kind to yourself. Stay kind to the team. Remain united. Remain human. It's okay to have big feelings, just keep them kind."
"There are going to be some sad and depressed people today enduring this week and this will weigh heavy as the whole nation feels it. "It's important to express our feelings of disappointment and loss, talk about how you are feeling and help others to do the same, especially children. "It's also important that people find a way of lifting their spirits and not dwell on what could've been. We need to focus on what we achieved in getting so far. "Send out positive messages and focus your attention on helping others, including the players, recover. Let's focus our attention on them and helping them recover and this will also help us recover and move on until next time. We will regroup and have another opportunity to bring it home."
"The sense of disappointment many people will feel waking up this morning is not what we may have hoped for, but as we have all come to appreciate in the past 18 months, we have to take the positives away from every situation, regardless how challenging. "We have the choice to acknowledge and build on our achievements and focus on the incredible feeling it is to overcome tough milestones in life. "Our football team have set a great example of how great things can be achieved with the right attitude and commitment. 'Rome wasn’t built in a day' is too much of a delicate analogy but you get my point."
"If you have feelings of depression that last more than a few hours after a disappointing result of a football match, you should talk to a therapist or counsellor. If you are employed, ask your manager for details of the employee wellbeing provider if you don't already have them."